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unhealthy soul ties	joanna	Monday, August 10, 2009
Question: I was married to my first boyfriend. Our marriage lasted for over 22 years until he comitted adultery. While Going through a Divorce, by chance I began talking to someone only on the phone. His voice was the most soothing thing i have ever heard. It is now a year and half later. In all my years of marriage i never long for my husband like how i long for this person. He was also goint through a divorce at that time we wern not intrested in each other but just spoke everyday. Eventually I developed feelings for him but he is dating somone. I cant seem to get him out of my thoughts - his voice gives me energy. I have prayed non stop to forget him even stop talking to him but that did not work. We still talk, but their is a void in my life for him. The only person i have even been with is my husband until now. The first time he kiss me it was a whole new world but he has since started dating someone. Why am i on a string? Jesus knows my heart. Why am I tormented like this and can't stop thinking of him? My desire for him is so real. I try to hide it but I cant. I have express my feelings to him, but he wants me as a best friend. What can i do to be free and move on with my life? I have been married for over 15 years and never felt like this. He also has practise using Reiki. Could this be it? He has control my mind to fall in love with him. What can i do to be set free from someonewho is practising Reiki? I am in love with this person but we are not dating, just good friends, I cant stop thinking about him Could it be the reiki that have me so crazy about him? Please tell me what to do urgently. Should i stop talking to him i am trying to bring him closer to Jesus by ministering to him about his life? He has me hooked on him. I am ready to run away even if it breaks my heart. I have begged Jesus to show me what to do about this situation and doing what is right.
Question Answered by Mr. Joe Meineke Dear Joanna, I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. I am also sorry to hear that your husband was unfaithful to you. We will certainly pray for you, that you find peace, freedom and healing through Jesus Christ. Yes, you need to cut all ties with this man. Regardless of how he makes you feel, and regardless of what you want to do, you need to break off this relationship - even if it is "just friends." Reading your post, it is apparent that you are obsessed with this man. Whether or not it is because he practices Reiki, or if you are just in a very vulnerable position right now because of your divorce, it doesn't matter. Your obsession appears to be unhealthy and self-destructive. While you can certainly pray for this man, you are in no position to try to minister to him. My advice would be to talk to a good Catholic counselor who can help you work through the emotions that you are experiencing. While what you describe sounds like the natural reaction of a person in a very vulnerable time in their life, a spiritual element to this problem is not out of the question. Therefore, in addition to the 'Prayer to Control Thoughts,' I have included links to the 'Rebuking Particular Spirits' prayer, the 'Hedge Prayer' and the 'Breaking Curses' prayer. I would recommend that you pray those as well: Prayer to Control Thoughts Rebuking Particular Spirits Hedge Prayer for Protection of Self Breaking Personal Curses and Spells Also, from your post, it is not clear if you are a Catholic or not. If you are, then you need to seek an annullment before you begin dating anyone. If you have not received an annullment, then you need to assume that you are still married and need to behave as such. God bless you, Joe Meineke For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.

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joanna

Monday, August 10, 2009

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I was married to my first boyfriend. Our marriage lasted for over 22 years until he comitted adultery. While Going through a Divorce, by chance I began talking to someone only on the phone. His voice was the most soothing thing i have ever heard. It is now a year and half later. In all my years of marriage i never long for my husband like how i long for this person.

He was also goint through a divorce at that time we wern not intrested in each other but just spoke everyday.   Eventually I developed feelings for him but he is dating somone.   I cant seem to get him out of my thoughts - his voice gives me energy.

I have prayed non stop to forget him even stop talking to him but that did not work.   We still talk, but their is a void in my life for him. The only person i have even been with is my husband until now. The first time he kiss me it was a whole new world but he has since started dating someone.

Why am i on a string? Jesus knows my heart.   Why am I tormented like this and can't stop thinking of him? My desire for him is so real. I try to hide it but I cant. I have express my feelings to him, but he wants me as a best friend.

What can i do to be free and move on with my life? I have been married for over 15 years and never felt like this. He also has practise using Reiki. Could this be it? He has control my mind to fall in love with him.

What can i do to be set free from someonewho is practising Reiki?

I am in love with this person but we are not dating, just good friends, I cant stop thinking about him

Could it be the reiki that have me so crazy about him?

Please tell me what to do urgently. Should i stop talking to him i am trying to bring him closer to Jesus by ministering to him about his life? He has me hooked on him.

I am ready to run away even if it breaks my heart.

I have begged Jesus to show me what to do about this situation and doing what is right.

Question Answered by Mr. Joe Meineke

Dear Joanna,

I am sorry to hear that you are going through this. I am also sorry to hear that your husband was unfaithful to you. We will certainly pray for you, that you find peace, freedom and healing through Jesus Christ.

Yes, you need to cut all ties with this man. Regardless of how he makes you feel, and regardless of what you want to do, you need to break off this relationship - even if it is "just friends."

Reading your post, it is apparent that you are obsessed with this man. Whether or not it is because he practices Reiki, or if you are just in a very vulnerable position right now because of your divorce, it doesn't matter. Your obsession appears to be unhealthy and self-destructive. While you can certainly pray for this man, you are in no position to try to minister to him.

My advice would be to talk to a good Catholic counselor who can help you work through the emotions that you are experiencing. While what you describe sounds like the natural reaction of a person in a very vulnerable time in their life, a spiritual element to this problem is not out of the question. Therefore, in addition to the 'Prayer to Control Thoughts,' I have included links to the 'Rebuking Particular Spirits' prayer, the 'Hedge Prayer' and the 'Breaking Curses' prayer. I would recommend that you pray those as well:

Prayer to Control Thoughts
Rebuking Particular Spirits
Hedge Prayer for Protection of Self
Breaking Personal Curses and Spells

Also, from your post, it is not clear if you are a Catholic or not. If you are, then you need to seek an annullment before you begin dating anyone. If you have not received an annullment, then you need to assume that you are still married and need to behave as such.

God bless you,
Joe Meineke

For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.