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Can a person curse you without having the intention to? Anne Thursday, May 10, 2012

Question:

My father has been heavily into the occult for decades. Crystal balls, channeling (worked as a medium), tarot, psychic visions, you name it. He says he has seen my past lives, seen my spirit guides in my room and claims to get psychic knowledge about various things.

I angered this person because I confronted him with abuse from my childhood. He was not the abuser, but when I was young, I told him that I was being abused (physically and verbally, not sexually). He refused to help and said I had bad karma to work off.

After I confronted him with this via letter, he created a smear campaign in the family. He lied about events both recent and in the past and convinced my relatives that I was mentally ill, wanted to hurt everyone and was basically evil and crazy. Typical approach to discredit the victim. He said so many nasty lies that some of my family members now believe I am the bad one to bring up abuse and cause problems. (There's generational abuse, so some of them are conditioned to excuse abuse and blame victims anyway).

Since all this happened, I have felt very depressed. I have even gotten to wishing I was dead. Nightmares (where i wake up screaming), terrible, dark thoughts and the feeling that nothing will ever be better plague me.

I've been to therapy (helpful), go to Confession monthly, Mass weekly, rosary almost daily, and those things help, especially Confession.

My question is this - can someone who is into the occult like that send a curse without a ritual or anything? His lies and intentional cruelty are a curse in a way, but could he unleash something on me by willing my pain and harm? I did the 7 steps to self-deliverance, and it was a tremendous help. But I want to know if it's possible that this is more than garden-variety sadness at being abused, lied about and having my family reject me.

Thank you for your website too. It is very helpful.



Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r)

Dear Anne:

We utter curses all the time in careless way. For example, a father may say to his son, "God-d**n it, Johnny. Didn't I tell you to take the trash out." Although the father was not intending to literally cast a curse on his son, that is exactly what he did by uttering those "curse" words. He also brings evil upon himself and his household by blaspheming God (taking God's name in vain).

Another example of a curse that people do not think is a curse is a mother saying, "Child, you are nothing but a lazy and good-for-nothing girl." This, too is a type of curse and well as emotional abuse.

Curses can range from the examples above, to elaborate rituals, and a whole lot of mess in-between. 

Thus, the answer to your question is "yes", curses can be cast without a ritual. Most curses are careless spontaneous utterances out of one's mouth.

I am glad to see that you are attending Mass and Confession regularly. Following the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance is excellent. Be the best Catholic you know how to be.

In addition, be sure to look at the Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog. Some of the prayers in the Catalog that I especially recommend are:

We will also be in prayer for you and your family.

Bottomline: From what you are saying, you are doing the right things. Keep up the good work living the good Catholic life.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary
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