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cursed or evil fait of misory for all my siblins, paren Paul Thursday, May 22, 2014

Question:

For over 3 years, my entire family have been threw unending misory and suffering, Mother died, uncle died, my little brother and myself wives moved out, layed off work, my Wife now among countless medical problems now has cancer with less then 10 years to live, bank took my house, my brothers, no job for me due to age and over qualification, sister's husband took off, she is loosing her house, I have no food or income, my car burned up, all our friends have abandonend us, I have a brain tumor i can't afford treatment.


All this and much more then you can imagin. We are devoted christians, we pray every day along with the rosery said by each every day.

Why has God abandoned us, why is there only more and more misory every day? I fear sleep and I am terrified what else will happen tomarrow. I now fear just leaving my room. We can't go on like this, i cant take any more. We have spoken to the church, they say pray, we have over 3 years. I need to kow, does God hate my whole family so much. Are there prayors of devine help, where do we turn to now?



Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), CCL, LTh, DD, LNDC

Dear Paul:

I have moved your question from the Faith and Spirituality to this forum as it relates to spiritual warfare issues.

I am sorry to hear about all these troubles in your family. God has not abandoned you and your family. God never abandons anyone, but God cannot necessarily stop tragedy in our lives. For example, the marriages that have failed has nothing to do with God, but has everything to do with the decisions with the wives and you and your brother. It is your decisions that cause the marital breakups.

God has given each of us Free Will. If God intruded on that Free Will we would no longer be human beings. Without Free Will we would be mere animals incapable of love. Love must be chosen and the ability to choose comes by Free Will. Having Free Will, however, also gives us the ability to make bad decisions. Nearly all of the miseries in our lives are cause either by Free Will decisions we make or that is made by others; that is, we are effected by the decisions of others as well as the decisions we make ourselves.

We have only ourselves to blame when we are miserable by bad decisions we make. Marital breakups are a result of the decisions made by the spouses; no one else can be blamed.

We are also effected by events that are just apart of life, such as natural disasters, illnesses, accidents, etc. This also has nothing to do with God, but are just effects of life.

Unemployment is caused either because we did something to deserve firing or we are laid off for reasons beyond our control. Losing one's job, that is from no fault of our own, is caused either from bad decisions of the employer or from business decisions that required laying people off. Either way, this has nothing to do with God.

As or having no food, this is not true. You can go to food banks, apply for Food Stamps and receive other forms of assistance. Check with you local department of social services and food stamp office.

I am sorry to hear about the brain tumor, but again, you are not prevented from getting treatment. There are cancer centers where people can go who do not have insurance or money. Check with your local hospital about how they can treat you, or where they can refer you.

The bottomline is that none of this is hopeless, none of it shows an abandonment of God. God is there to help you through all this if you let him. He does not abandon you, rather is is by your side to help you through the tragedy and misery.

Comfort will come as you resign yourself into God's arms. Instead of despair over all that is happening to you, give it to God and seek to find what God wants to teach you through this suffering. God promises that "all things work together for good to those who love God" (Roman 8:28). God can bring something good out of all this if you let Him. I know that is easier to say than to do, but that is what we must do.

I have been in situations similar to you. I survived through it and learned from it. I thank God that my suffering was not just suffering but was made into something good by God.

God loves you and your family. He is waiting for you to fall into His arms. God loves you so much that He will hold you in His arms and He will help you through this, and He will make something good out of it somehow.

God tells us he will never abandon us and will always love is in Romans 8:35, 37-39

Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? ...  No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. I am sure that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. 

This is a promise of God. God does not lie and He always keeps His promises. But, if we reject His grace by not believing God and thinking He is a liar, or by wallowing in our own misery refusing to abandon ourselves into His arms, that is not God's fault; it is our fault. God is there holding His hand out to us. If we do not take His hand we have no one but ourselves to blame. God still loves us, He has not abandon us, but He will not force us against our will to come to Him.

You need to give up your despair and realize that God loves you and has not abandon you. You suffering is a result of your own and other's decisions, or is a result of events that are just a part of life. Let God make sweet lemonade out of these lemons in your life.

Now, with all that said, there is such a thing as a family curse. On this spiritual side, you and your family needs to follow the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance linked below and use the appropriate prayers in our Spiritual Warfare Catalog linked below. One prayer is Breaking Spells and Curses. Pray that prayer, the Hedge Prayers of Protection, and any other prayers you need.

But, these prayers are not magic bullets. It may take time, a lot of time, for any curses to lift. Whether or not any curses are lifted, you must persevere in the faith and lift up you suffering to God. You must abandon yourself to God will no matter what happens.

In the Seven Steps is a link about Abandonment/Resignation to God's will. Read that document and pray the prayers. 

God loves you and is waiting for you to come to Him.

We will be praying for you.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary


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