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Forgiving Ongoing Offenses	Dolly	Wednesday, August 6, 2014
Question: I understand that forgiveness is vital to healing and spiritual warfare. All I have read on this topic deals with forgiving past offenses.I understand this and forgive past acts.But, how does one handle forgiving ongoing offenses? I am married to this person. I can not separate. The offenses are generally not small matters. I try to forgive incident 1 when ten others have occurred in rapid succession (some great and some small). Please guide me as to handle this, I can not receive Holy Communion because I have unforgiveness in my heart. I have read and done a lot regarding past acts, but I need help in learning how to forgive ongoing, daily acts. (I could not find this in your forum.) I am in a bad spiritual state because of this. I go to confession frequently, read scripture,attend mass, and pray. I am in tremendous need of guidance so I can forgive, and my soul will not be in jeopardy due to lack of forgiveness.I am overwhelmed by not being able to forgive as fast as the incidents occur. Thank you.
Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), CCL, LTh, DD, LNDC Dear Dolly: I am sorry to hear about your situation. It is most difficult when one has ongoing offenses, and even worse when one cannot get away from the abuser. But, even in this situation we can, and must, forgive. If the offenses are 20 times a day we can forgive 20 times a day. To do this you have to separate your emotions about the offenses, from the objective act of forgiveness. Forgiveness is an act of will. We can make an act of will by saying, "I forgive ____ for ____________." That is the act of will. The emotions, however, may take a long time to calm down. That will come in time. What you need to do now is to ask God to help you to forgive and to cleanse your heart of unforgiveness and to give you peace (even if it is only for a few minutes), ask God to help you in dealing with the spouse, and make an Act of Will to forgive. It is just the force of will. Remember, emotions will continue, but your will can forgive this very minute. See our pamphlet on Dealing with Bitterness and Unforgiveness. This sort of situation is one that may attract demons, including the demon of unforgiveness, this I advise praying spiritual warfare prayers, the Catalog is linked below. One is the Rebuking Particular Spirits. This prayer can rebuke the demon of unforgiveness, for example. you can identify demons by their attribute, such as the demon of unforgiveness, or the demon of marital cruelty, or of anger, etc. Another is the personal Hedge Prayer of Protection. We will be praying for you. God Bless, Bro. Ignatius Mary For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.

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Forgiving Ongoing Offenses

Dolly

Wednesday, August 6, 2014

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I understand that forgiveness is vital to healing and spiritual warfare. All I have read on this topic deals with forgiving past offenses.I understand this and forgive past acts.But, how does one handle forgiving ongoing offenses?

I am married to this person. I can not separate. The offenses are generally not small matters. I try to forgive incident 1 when ten others have occurred in rapid succession (some great and some small). Please guide me as to handle this, I can not receive Holy Communion because I have unforgiveness in my heart. I have read and done a lot regarding past acts, but I need help in learning how to forgive ongoing, daily acts. (I could not find this in your forum.) I am in a bad spiritual state because of this. I go to confession frequently, read scripture,attend mass, and pray. I am in tremendous need of guidance so I can forgive, and my soul will not be in jeopardy due to lack of forgiveness.I am overwhelmed by not being able to forgive as fast as the incidents occur. Thank you.

Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), CCL, LTh, DD, LNDC

Dear Dolly:

I am sorry to hear about your situation. It is most difficult when one has ongoing offenses, and even worse when one cannot get away from the abuser. But, even in this situation we can, and must, forgive. If the offenses are 20 times a day we can forgive 20 times a day.

To do this you have to separate your emotions about the offenses, from the objective act of forgiveness. Forgiveness is an act of will. We can make an act of will by saying, "I forgive ____ for ____________." That is the act of will.

The emotions, however, may take a long time to calm down. That will come in time. What you need to do now is to ask God to help you to forgive and to cleanse your heart of unforgiveness and to give you peace (even if it is only for a few minutes), ask God to help you in dealing with the spouse, and make an Act of Will to forgive. It is just the force of will. Remember, emotions will continue, but your will can forgive this very minute.

See our pamphlet on Dealing with Bitterness and Unforgiveness.

This sort of situation is one that may attract demons, including the demon of unforgiveness, this I advise praying spiritual warfare prayers, the Catalog is linked below. One is the Rebuking Particular Spirits. This prayer can rebuke the demon of unforgiveness, for example. you can identify demons by their attribute, such as the demon of unforgiveness, or the demon of marital cruelty, or of anger, etc. Another is the personal Hedge Prayer of Protection.

We will be praying for you.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary

For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.