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Can anybody read the protection prayers?	Carol	Wednesday, August 8, 2007
Question: -Just to give you a brief history about why I'm asking this question... I am married through the church for 9yrs. Well about almost 5 years ago I had an affair and continued to have an emotional affair with this other man even though I had told my husband it was over. However on many different instances I wanted to end this relationship with the other man. I do pray and pray to ask God to help me and guide me and regardless I'm still not able to end it. I do feel I love my husband very much. I honestly feel that this man has done something for me to keep attach to him. he is back in my country so I don't see him every contact is through telephone or email. Now I do NOT want to do some of the protection prayers because I feel I will open more problems than I already have.. Is that possible? How should I prepare myself?
Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM Dear Carol: Sorry for the delay in responding; I have been in the hospital. It sounds like you have an inappropriate attachment to this other man. As such you need to do three things: 1) First, make a cognitive decision to stop all relationship with this man. That means ALL contact (telephone, Internet, email, postal mail, person-to-person). This must be done immediately. Nothing else is possible until you severe all contact with this man. 2) Second, once you have terminated ALL contact with this man, then you need to work on eliminating any thinking errors. A thinking error, for example, is that you cannot end this. Yes you can. Make the decision. Your soul depends upon it. 3) Third, begin working on your emotions. Why were you attracted to this man in the first place? What is lacking in your life to find yourself in this situation? As you discover these things through those emotions evaluating them with "reason." Remind yourself the these emotions toward him are wrong and ungodly. Remind yourself of what attracted you to your husband. Focus on the positive things about your marriage. Go to professional counseling if needed. 4) If there be any spiritual attachments then approach that with spiritual warfare prayers. Use the "Prayer to Control Thoughts" in the Spiritual Warfare Catalog linked below. Also the "Rebuking Particular Spirits". The possible spirits here may be the spirit of lust, the spirit of attraction, the spirit of adultery, for example. The prayers of protection, especially the Hedge Prayer is important too, but Ayleen, prayers of protection will have little effect if you leave the door open to attachment and relationship with this man. YOU MUST SHUT THE DOOR TOTALLY. No contact AT ALL with this man. Then you can secure a hedge of protection around you. But the gate of the hedge MUST be closed. If you take these steps you may hopefully move on and better protect yourself spiritually, and to renew your marriage. God Bless, Bro. Ignatius Mary For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.

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Can anybody read the protection prayers?

Carol

Wednesday, August 8, 2007

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-Just to give you a brief history about why I'm asking this question... I am married through the church for 9yrs.

Well about almost 5 years ago I had an affair and continued to have an emotional affair with this other man even though I had told my husband it was over. However on many different instances I wanted to end this relationship with the other man. I do pray and pray to ask God to help me and guide me and regardless I'm still not able to end it. I do feel I love my husband very much. I honestly feel that this man
has done something for me to keep attach to him. he is back in my country so I don't see him every contact is through telephone or email.

Now I do NOT want to do some of the protection prayers because I feel I will open more problems than I already have..

Is that possible? How should I prepare myself?

Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM

Dear Carol:

Sorry for the delay in responding; I have been in the hospital.

It sounds like you have an inappropriate attachment to this other man. As such you need to do three things:

1) First, make a cognitive decision to stop all relationship with this man. That means ALL contact (telephone, Internet, email, postal mail, person-to-person). This must be done immediately. Nothing else is possible until you severe all contact with this man.

2) Second, once you have terminated ALL contact with this man, then you need to work on eliminating any thinking errors. A thinking error, for example, is that you cannot end this. Yes you can. Make the decision. Your soul depends upon it.

3) Third, begin working on your emotions. Why were you attracted to this man in the first place? What is lacking in your life to find yourself in this situation? As you discover these things through those emotions evaluating them with "reason." Remind yourself the these emotions toward him are wrong and ungodly. Remind yourself of what attracted you to your husband. Focus on the positive things about your marriage. Go to professional counseling if needed.

4) If there be any spiritual attachments then approach that with spiritual warfare prayers. Use the "Prayer to Control Thoughts" in the Spiritual Warfare Catalog linked below. Also the "Rebuking Particular Spirits". The possible spirits here may be the spirit of lust, the spirit of attraction, the spirit of adultery, for example.

The prayers of protection, especially the Hedge Prayer is important too, but Ayleen, prayers of protection will have little effect if you leave the door open to attachment and relationship with this man. YOU MUST SHUT THE DOOR TOTALLY. No contact AT ALL with this man. Then you can secure a hedge of protection around you. But the gate of the hedge MUST be closed.

If you take these steps you may hopefully move on and better protect yourself spiritually, and to renew your marriage.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary

For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.