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Soul mate Anama Monday, January 21, 2008


What is the Catholic teaching on soulmates? As in the belief that there is one person God meant for me to be my husband.

I feel i am called to marriage but have not met a good man or someone that I think God would be okay with. I want to find my soulmate, or be found, and even checked some astrology and psychic stuff about it- until i found out that those are considered diviniations, and against the first commandment. I also found a website about jewish or kabala belief on soulmates.

Please give me a Catholic understand of this and help me in my prayers to meet the man God would want for me and eventually marry him.

Thank you. Please send me a reply via email also

Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM

Dear Anama:

The idea that there is "just the one person" who has been picked by God for you to marry, another soul "fated" to be our spouse, and we have to find that one special person is really a superstition; it is also a popular New Age concept. That is not the meaning of soul mate.

A soul mate is merely a person "ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner".

Finding a soul mate is merely finding a person to whom you are suited for marriage. That could be any number of people.

You need to pray that God will bring someone into your life that is suited to you. If you focus on some mythical concept of the perfect person you are fated to be with you are likely to be alone a long time.

Under NO circumstances are you to resort to divination of any kind to find your soul mate or to superstition -- that include Jewish occultism such as the Kabala. Your soul mate will be that person to whom you are suited in personality and spirit to be spouse. 

The process of finding this person is the normal ways of finding a mate -- meeting people, dating, praying.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary

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