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re: want to confront abuser	Liesel	Sunday, January 4, 2009
Question: I apologize for not including all information in my original question. I should have prayed and spent more time composing my question in order to be clear. However, I humbly and respectfully disagree with you, as I do still believe that confronting my abuser will help me heal because it will allow me the opportunity to defend myself and not feel powerless. But I know the focus must be on saving his soul. In regards to the letter from Faith, yes, grandchildren have been molested by my abuser. I, along with some of his relatives, suspect him of being an active pedophile for over 50 years. Thank you for your advice and thank you for your ministry, I will support you and your work with prayer and fasting.
Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM Dear Liesel: That is okay, this is a matter of personal judgment. My only point is to affirm that ultimate healing comes from forgiveness. Personal confrontation may have a positive effect psychologically for some people. Many victims, however, never have the chance to confront their abusers yet still find healing through forgiveness. In your case you have the opportunity to confront him. If you feel you need to confront him that is not a problem as long as you understand that doing so may or may not have a healing effect. Forgiveness, on the other hand, is a healing that comes from God. Confrontation in this case, with the additional information you provided I would suggest is needed in terms of putting him on notice. That needs to be followed with proactive measures to be sure that he does not molest anyone in the family again, such as never allowing any of the grandchildren to be alone with him for even a couple of minutes. I would also talk with the police. Forgiveness will bring a lasting and deep healing of your spirit and your psychology, but if you feel you need to make a personal confrontation to help you come to a closure I think that is okay. God Bless, Bro. Ignatius Mary For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.

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Liesel

Sunday, January 4, 2009

Question:

I apologize for not including all information in my original question. I should have prayed and spent more time composing my question in order to be clear. However, I humbly and respectfully disagree with you, as I do still believe that confronting my abuser will help me heal because it will allow me the opportunity to defend myself and not feel powerless. But I know the focus must be on saving his soul.

In regards to the letter from Faith, yes, grandchildren have been molested by my abuser. I, along with some of his relatives, suspect him of being an active pedophile for over 50 years.

Thank you for your advice and thank you for your ministry, I will support you and your work with prayer and fasting.

Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM

Dear Liesel:

That is okay, this is a matter of personal judgment. My only point is to affirm that ultimate healing comes from forgiveness. Personal confrontation may have a positive effect psychologically for some people. Many victims, however, never have the chance to confront their abusers yet still find healing through forgiveness. In your case you have the opportunity to confront him. If you feel you need to confront him that is not a problem as long as you understand that doing so may or may not have a healing effect. Forgiveness, on the other hand, is a healing that comes from God.

Confrontation in this case, with the additional information you provided I would suggest is needed in terms of putting him on notice. That needs to be followed with proactive measures to be sure that he does not molest anyone in the family again, such as never allowing any of the grandchildren to be alone with him for even a couple of minutes. I would also talk with the police.

Forgiveness will bring a lasting and deep healing of your spirit and your psychology, but if you feel you need to make a personal confrontation to help you come to a closure I think that is okay.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary

For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.